On the Flip-Side, We Discover The Wolf

Doesn’t that drive you crazy?! He is a mean S.O.B at home but, on the flip side … everyone loves him.

He’s fun to be around, even lights up the room. He’s smart, handsome (even ruggedly good looking), charismatic, and on the flip side, he hits you, threatens you, punches holes in walls and throws furniture (and you) around.

Because he presents himself as a solid guy, a pillar of the community, he may even be a pastor or minister, who is going to believe that he’s an abuser?

We protect him, hide our bruises, never speak our Truth, and pretend our marriage is normal. Who is going to believe we lived in domestic abuse for years?

Even after we left the relationship, we were afraid to speak our Truth, we chose not to tell friends or co-workers why we really left. We continue the charade.

That is our dilemma, isn’t it?

How did we get into this mess?

Well, because he is smart, handsome (even ruggedly good looking) and charismatic. He is a wolf in sheep’s clothing. The wolf side, the flip side, didn’t show up until we were committed to the relationship; until we were in too deep to get out.

Everyone else sees the sheep. We get the wolf.